Kelly the Culinarian: Suddenly Single: New Me Manifesto

Monday, November 10, 2014

Suddenly Single: New Me Manifesto

New me
I've danced around what's going on and flat out dodged it by not updating my blog at.all. I don't like it. I've never been exactly transparent but it's time to come clean and face this all with a little bit of grace.

I'm divorced.

I'm not about to get ashamed. Despite the fact that the majority of marriages end, we don't ever talk about it. I refuse to accept this as part of my identity. It's something that happened that was unpleasant but is over.

So moving on, it's time to recalibrate. Heal. Focus on me and what I want. We all get so caught up in setting resolutions at the beginning of the year. How about resolutions for the beginning of a new me. I've thought long and hard about what I'm going to need to do to be happy move forward, and here are the things I want to change about me and my life.

1. Lose the divorce weight. I haven't weighed myself for months but I know I wouldn't be happy with the results. I want to go back to Weight Watchers and drop the 20ish pounds I packed on through this process.
2. Appreciate me. Even at my thinnest, I didn't like the way I look. At 30, I'm sick of being that person.

3. Be closer with my family. I now live within miles of both my sisters. My mom always told us that once they're gone, we're all each other has. They've helped me immensely through this unimaginably rough period and I want to ensure that continues.
Sisters do silly things together
4. Blog more. Through the darkest days of this I had nothing to write. My life was one big churn of change and decisions, but nothing I wanted to share. I'm re-emerging and ready to share again.

13 comments:

Unknown said...

Great attitude, and excited you will be blogging more! Cheers to all the new adventures (and dates with funny stories you will tell forever) you can't even begin to fathom!

Grant Chmilowsky said...

I am going throught the same thing as well. Great read.

Losing Lindy said...

good for you for being strong and accepting you for you. A divorce is a divorce...sad..and hard..but not the end of the world. You are the strongest woman I know. You handle things with grace and you will keep your chin up and continue on. This is by far his greatest loss.

Katie Adams said...

I love you attitude in the post and I'm excited to hang out with Kelly 3.0. Maybe we can work on #2 together? It's is something I am focusing on too. :)

Lauren Wong said...

<3 Great attitude. Look forward to seeing you around, and you're awesome! New leaf...

kathyo said...

Looking forward to more posts. I think with your attitude you'll continue on to be a stronger and happier person!

Shannyn said...

Sending you so, so much love. I wrote on my blog about how I called off my engagement an called off the wedding... I feel that the blog writing can be cathartic, but it's hard at the same time. I appreciate your honesty and transparency and wish you an amazing new chapter!

Unknown said...

Kelly 3.0 sounds like the ultimate, fancy & best version of the original prototype. With that great attitude and outlook, I have no doubts that you'll pull through this tough time soon <3

-Irina

Amanda Nyx said...

You have my full support! Good luck making the new you AMAZING - I'm sure you'll do a fantastic job :)

Hyacynth said...

Here for you, love. Always here for you!

Nicole Kesten said...

Great post.. you are strong. Looking forward to 2015 bring the year of kelly. we need to see each other soon!

movinitwithmichelle.com said...

So sorry you had to go through the divorce, but I am so excited about your amazing attitude. I'm here if you need a shoulder!

Zenaida Arroyo said...

Great attitude Kelly!